Alone time. Alone. Time. Two of the most beautiful words I love to hear, yet rarely get to experience. Because let’s be honest, as parents alone time is like looking for your favorite Disney character at Disneyland. Sometimes you find them and sometimes you don’t.
I think we can all agree as parents with young children, we begin to lose a little bit of ourselves. Not intentionally of course, but our children consume every minute of every day (or at least it feels like it). Worth the sacrifice. They’re only little for such a short period of time, but if the answer to being a happy parent is securing a little alone time, then it’s well worth the juggling act.
With housework, taking care of the kids, grocery shopping, the endless to-do list, working mom or stay-at-home-mom, it’s easy to say no to the things that make us happy. As parents, it’s our responsibility to provide mentally and emotionally for our children, but why do we begin to believe it’s ok to neglect ourselves? Personally, I am guilty of this. Maybe you are too.
I’ve made every excuse in the world to forgo allowing myself a little me time.
Granted, I’m at a stay-at-home-mom so I’m with my kids 24/7, but for some reason I’ve felt incredibly guilty when the mere thought of leaving my kids pops into my mind.
But here’s the thing, you know something ain’t right when you’re snapping at your husband for no reason or you’re blowing up at your kids when they accidentally spill their goldfish on the floor. Talk about tense, grumpy, and irritable. I became the poster parent for scowling. You know, the mom that opens her mouth and just says “no.”
About five months ago, I told myself enough was enough and that I deserved a little time to myself. Before having children, my happy place was the gym. I’d go five or six times a week, sometimes twice in one day. Obvi that’s not an option anymore. My goal is three times a week and that’s it. Anymore would just be unrealistic. But let me tell you, I’m walking on sunshine. Whooooooa. I feel like a human being again. Or somewhat at least.
We all need alone time and that’s ok.
Do your kids talk to you all day long? Nope. I can bet you money they occasionally sit quietly entertaining themselves. Even, babies and toddlers need a little time to woozah. We live in a world where we’re expected to constantly be doing something. There’s no shame in just relaxing. It’s good for the soul. Babies or adults, we all need it.
Whether you’re a SAHM or working mom, don’t forget to take some time for yourself. We all need a break because kids can run you ragged if you let them. So whatever your happy place is, find it, go to it, do what you need to do. You do you boo.