Potting Training and Why You Don’t Need Rewards To Get The Job Done (Literally and Figuratively)

From my experience, potty-training is pretty straightforward.

I don’t mean to be rude or insensitive, but when I’ve seen people potty training for months or that their kids are having accidents, I tend to think someone wasn’t ready. Whether that be you or your child.

And let me say this, before I started potty-training, I was scared shitless. I was honestly so intimidated by it, I didn’t even want to think about it, or talk about it.  Partly, because my children are very close in age and I remember when I needed to potty-train my oldest who was 2 at the time, I had a 1-year-old and newborn. So yeah, potty-training kinda overwhelmed me.

I didn’t read any books about potty-training. I just listened to the advice my parents gave me and thought it would magically work itself out.

Well it didn’t. My 2-year-old was terrified to sit on her little Minnie Mouse potty. We even tried cute toilet seat rings and she was scared of that too. And when I say scared, I mean screaming bloody murder, that kind of scared. Like, hyperventilating, her face was puffy from all the crying. And with that, I think we made it a few hours into before giving up.

So a couple months later, I tried a different approach and took her to Target so she could pick out her own underwear in hopes it would make the process more exciting. And when the big day once again came, I also tried bribing her with M&M’s. That also didn’t work.

So by this time, I was over it. I needed a simple approach because I was exhausted at this point.

I was lucky enough to stumble upon Oh Crap! Potty Training and let me tell you, game changer. This book 100% opened my eyes to a realistic, no-reward type of approach and it worked. For all three of my children. This book helped me tremendously and I really do believe it makes it easier.

It establishes that potty training is the expectation without providing rewards. And yes I’m a little old school, I just don’t believe in rewarding every little thing. I think sharing this moment and letting my child see how proud I am of her or him, should be sufficient. WHY in the world are you spending money on M&Ms to bribe them or making a sticker chart? If you have to do either of these things, they ain’t ready. Again, not judging how you get it done (because again, I tried bribing with candy and it blew up in my face). I just don’t believe in going through that extra amount of effort to teach them to learn to pee on a toilet.

Like Yoda says, “either do or do not. There is no try.”

Well it’s true. If you go in with that attitude, you’re setting yourself up for failure. I’m telling you this because I did it several times with my oldest daughter. The whole, ok let’s try to get to get you potty trained kinda thing. Ummmm no. Bad attitude and someone should have told me how ridiculous that sounds. Do you try to brush your teeth in the morning or do you do it? Do you try to make it on work on time or do you get there on time?

If potty training is your goal and you’re both ready, get ‘er done. I have another blog on how to tell if your child is ready so I suggest reading up on that to tell if your child is ready. But seriously y’all, don’t be scurrrrred of potty training. It’s not that difficult. In fact, it’s a neat experience for you and your toddler. Plus, you’re saving a lot of money so hello, if that’s not the best reason ever, I don’t know what it is. Keep in mind that it’s totally achievable to get this done over the weekend and I have another blog on that so feel free to take a peak as well!


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