Pros and Cons of Having Children Close in Age

Never in a million years did I think I’d have three children in thirty-two months.

I’m the person who has all her meals planned for the entire week. And every weekend has an itinerary. So you can imagine unplanned pregnancies never crossed my mind. The idea was to always have three children, but I had this picture-perfect idea of waiting a couple years between each child.

I always joke, but our house is a working carnival, 365 days a year. It’s loud, full of laughter, and heavily sprinkled with tears and tantrums. Some days are a breeze and other days leave me feeling like a mombie (mom + zombie).

I will say this, having children close in age keeps you on your toes.

Because it only takes five seconds of not paying attention and someone is shoving a M&M up their nose or using your white walls as a canvas for their next crayola masterpiece.

 

Pros 

  1. Built-in playmates– Children close in age are able to entertain each other which means you don’t have to leave the house for play dates. I’m kidding, but seriously though.
  2. Same age group means similar interests– They’ll be into the same stuff which is helpful. Because right now my 3-year-old and 2-year-old have similar hobbies, enjoy the same movies, yada yada yada.
  3. Too young to be jealous of one another– Since my kids were born so close together, they’ve never experienced life without each other and they’re too young to remember otherwise. Think of it like this, a 1-year-old doesn’t know to dislike a newborn.
  4. Baby phaseKnock out the baby stage within a few years- diapers, bottles, sleep training, tantrums, potty training, etc. You know, all the fun stuff.
  5. Hand-me-downs– You’ll have what you need for the next baby. Necessary equipment like bouncers, baby seats, jumpers, and walkers. And sometimes clothes if you’re having another girl or boy.
  6. It’s FUN– Lets be honest, babies are cute and toddlers are hilarious so put those two together and you’ve got a party on your hands. And it’s adorable watching your children learn from each other.

Cons

  1. Sharing sucks– The sharing phase can be tiresome because toddlers don’t fully understand this concept. Be prepared to act like a referee half the day.
  2. Alone time with each child– It can be a challenge to carve out special time with each child. Bonding is more as a group than it is individually. Unless you’re able to to schedule mommy daughter or mommy son dates.
  3. Life will be exhausting– Just accept it. Don’t fight it because with babies and toddlers, they need you for everything. It can be intense because it’s nonstop. For example, my children aren’t in school yet so we’re together all day everyday.
  4. Double the diapers can be $$$– When my youngest child was born, I had three kids in diapers because I was late to potty train my oldest child. Instead of buying one box of diapers, you’re buying twice as much.
  5. Coordinating napsCan be a bit tricky since babies and toddlers nap very differently.
  6. Pregnancies are brutualPersonally, I hate being pregnant and feeling uncomfortable, but add taking care of a curious toddler into the mix and you’re just drained.

So, is it better to space out your pregnancies or knock em’ out?

I wish I could answer that, but everyone’s different. Would my life be less exhausting if we planned better? Probably. I know for a fact I’d probably yell a little less. But I’ve learned to love more and love harder because I have to work three times as hard to make sure everyone feels the love. More importantly, it’s taught me to be present. And even when one of my toddlers say, “mama, watch me do this,” I act like its the first time- even though I’ve already seen them do a somersault for the twentieth time in the last hour. Motherhood, am I right?

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7 Comments

  1. TKO
    August 30, 2018 / 8:57 am

    You forgot the most important Pro: all 3 were free for Disneyland!!

    • August 30, 2018 / 9:19 am

      You’re right!! Things are free when they’re little! I’ll have to add something in!

  2. August 30, 2018 / 9:08 am

    This was great! I love your insight on the pros and cons. Love the examples as well:)

    • August 30, 2018 / 9:21 am

      Thanks girl! Means a lot. Just trying to keep it real. Not into sugarcoating motherhood!!!

      • August 30, 2018 / 12:51 pm

        You’re welcome! And thats what I love about you! Always keeping it real:)

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