As a stay-at-home-mom, you’ll probably hear some rude comments.
I have no idea why people say what they say. To me it seems pretty simple to think before you talk. It’s really a life skill-which some people clearly lack. It’s called a filter people and we’re living in 2019, show a little tact. You can’t go running your mouth and just say the first thing that pops into your mind. Ok, rant over.
Unfortunately, one thing I’ve learned as a SAHM, annoying comments are inevitable. But you’ve gotta be confident in what you’re doing and why you chose to stay at home with your kids. And be prepared to put someone in their place if need be. A little reality check never hurt anyone.
Let’s be honest though, whether you’re a SAHM or working-mom, I’m almost certain you’ll hear some kind of nonsense. I’ve heard things people tell working-moms and it’s not much better than the crap I’ve heard.
The Most Annoying Questions You Will Hear
“Don’t you want to go back to work?” Eventually yes, but why are you asking me that? Unless I brought up the topic, that conversation is something I will discuss with my partner. It’s not really any of your business.
“Why don’t you hire a nanny or put them in daycare or preschool?” Because nannies are expensive and if you must know, sending three young toddlers to pre-school, a montesorri, or even daycare would cost about what I would bring home if I went back to work. So makes sense that I’m staying home with them, right?
“Do you ever sleep?” Of course I sleep. My kids are toddlers now, not newborns. Are you asking me this because I look tired and have bags under eyes? Yeah, I’m tired, I’m a mom and that in itself is exhausting. And those purple bags under my eyes are genetic so lay off.
Aren’t you bored? Don’t you want to talk to adults? I’m not sure anymore because I forgot how rude people can be-like yourself for asking such an idiotic question.
“Don’t you want to contribute to your family?” I guess raising my children, maintaining the house, cooking three meals a day, meal-prepping, cleaning, laundry, grocery shopping, etc. isn’t really contributing, is it?
“But like, what do you all day?” Do you really want me to answer this because it’s insanely offensive. Why don’t you tell me exactly what you do at your job every single second of the day? Get it now. Since I am a SAHM, my job is 24/7. I’m with my kids from the moment they wake up until they go to sleep (and when they wake up screaming in the middle of the night or they’re sick and I have to sleep on the couch with them). There’s no lunch break or walk around the office to clear my mind, because usually my kids are eating half my lunch and that walk would be accompanied by three children.
I’ve learned it’s easier to ignore the stupidity than it is to engage.
I remember when my oldest child was just a baby, I found these types of comments oh so offensive. And at the time, people were constantly asking me these things. I can’t tell you how often I heard, “so when are you going back to work?” Like damn, I just had my first baby, can you calm down? And because people were only asking because they’re nosey AF. I suppose I was a little insecure that I was staying home since having a career always seemed to define who I was.
Luckily now, I could careless what you think because I know staying home with children is no walk in the park. To even consider a SAHM’s job easy is like thinking it’s easier for a working mom. What’s even better is that usually these kind of comments come from people who don’t have kids. If you walk away with one thing, don’t ask these type of questions unless a SAHM brings it up.